“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
‭‭Titus‬ ‭2‬:‭3‬-‭5‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Did you grow up learning family recipes and cooking with your mother or sewing with your Nanna? I didn’t, I didn’t learn many of what used to be “common knowledge” amongst women. In fact, many of these things are being taken from women today and homemakers are being made out to be “less-than” or “setting women back”. These quotations are being written with heavy eye rolling and a wounded heart!

I feel like a right of passage was taken from me! A passage into womanhood. Granted, I am aware that this kind of knowledge isn’t for everyone, you don’t have to learn to make bread to be a woman, you don’t have to sew your own clothes or can your own peaches. No, these are things I want to do!

I used to go right along with the notions of modern feminism. I used to think I could do everything a man could do and I could do it better! Ha! It’s seriously laughable when I think about it now! I am nothing like a man!

My husband, for comparison, could pick up a table and throw it! And, while I could strength train and work out to get my body into the shape to be able to do that, he can do it with very little effort! (sexy, right!)

There are differences between men and women and unfortunately saying that today marks me for persecution but, nonetheless, it is true. And the more I have embraced this fact, the more I have realized that society has taken almost all of the femininity out of me and has taken the knowledge of useful and practical things away from women.

Homemaking is the art of keeping a home. That includes, but is not limited to, the art of cooking, cleaning, decorating, the keeping of finances, etc..

Today this is looked at as oppressive submission, but the Bible states clearly that there is an order to things, and I have found that, so far in my life, when I have done things my way, I have ended up feeling empty and unfulfilled. But, when I do things the way God has planned, I am blessed and blessed abundantly!

“Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.””
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭28‬-‭29‬ ‭ESV‬‬

What does that have to do with learning to coupon? Everything!

I don’t know how to do anything I think to be apart of basic womanhood! I am 30 years old and finally beginning to embrace what I believe to be true womanhood and femininity and I have absolutely no idea how to do it!! This seems mad to me! It would be different if I had grown up learning these things and then got to choose that it wasn’t the life for me, but I never had the opportunity, I feel robbed!

So I have decided, at 30 years of age, to teach myself and my daughters the art of homemaking and womanhood according to the Bible. How you ask? That is a great question!! I have no idea, but I know that I am going to start by getting over my fear of making bread!

I don’t know why yeast scares me but at this point I have messed up enough recipes to know that I probably won’t get it right the first time, but eventually I will and, with how much bread my family consumes, I want to see if this skill will be a worthwhile investment! It never hurts to try! Right?

“She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭15‬ ‭ESV‬‬

As I study the word and my life I can see just how much of a miracle it is every time someone gives their life over to Christ. This world grooms us in every way to be deniers of Christ and God’s word. Today anything modest or sensible is looked down on and if a woman finds joy in doing things for her husband she is looked at as if she has a case of Stockholm syndrome and is pitied or ridiculed! I thought the point was to let women do and be whatever they want? Or is that only if they want is to be a man or hate men?

“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭10‬ ‭ESV‬‬

So I am challenging myself, a woman of established age, to learn to be what I consider to be a Godly woman, a woman who takes pride in the things God has given her and will multiply them! A woman who loves her husband and her children and gives of herself to them! A woman who keeps herself and her home in order and looks forward to serving!

I’ve tried things the other way, now it’s time to try it God’s way! Shouldn’t I try it before denying it? I would love to have the opportunity to choose for myself and not have society choose for me!

Stay tuned for another chapter of I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m doing it anyways!! XD

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭30‬ ‭ESV‬‬